Most women get great sensual pleasure from touching and being touched. Women find body contact and closeness are more important to them than they are to men, but they are not substitutes for orgasms. Women want both physical and emotional closeness and orgasms.
Many Western men are unable to enjoy touching, body contact, and caressing, and this is largely a fault of our upbringing. Small boys are taught that to show emotions, to show affection, and to enjoy touching other people diminishes their male identity. Real men – red-blooded masculine men – are taught to hide their emotions. It is weak and feminine to cry. Affection can only be shown in private: to show open affection makes a man’s masculinity suspect. Touching is something only women and homosexuals do. By contrast, girls are taught that women can show emotions: they can cry, they can show open affection, and they may touch people without diminishing their femininity.
It is a sad commentary on our culture that this is so. There is no biological difference between men and women in the need for bodily contact – but men are trained to ignore the important psychological values of touching and this can reduce their sexual enjoyment.
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